Deep community. Intentional friendships with single female friends. What does it mean for single women to know the fullness of life? Like so many other Christians in America, the first 25 adult years of my Christian experience I had no imagination for deep non-marital relationships. As Christena observed in her post, I had no imagination for intentional intimate friendship. That kind of friendship was synonymous with marital friendship!
I've learned a lot from single women about single women and friendship in recent years.
In the last decade I’ve come to see that both marriage and friendship have a “missional” or outward orientation. I would stand with Catholic theologian David Matzko McCarthy that marriage is “in the middle of a larger network of preferential loves.” As my personal community intersected with my church community, intentional friendship with single women is an important part of my story now. I fiercely love my wife and as of tomorrow, we'll be married thirty-three years!